Inner Child + Emotional Healing

Children are sometimes our best teachers and our inner child an excellent guide.

What do you remember as a child; what where your joys and what broke your heart?

What do you remember? This is the template of our life.

Ever wonder what is stored in your subconscious that silently steers your life and experiences?  When we are young we may have witnessed or experienced tragedy or trauma that we were not able to process as little ones. This gets stored in our minds, our bodies and our nervous system and part of our evolutionary growth may be stunted as a result. In the work of Anodea Judith she explains this in her book Eastern Body, Western Mind: Psychology and the Chakra System as a Path to Self. “The chakra system is an evolutionary program and can be used to reprogram our lives.”

If energy gets trapped due to traumatic experiences they are stuck on a loop like a broken record, until it is cleared, released and transformed. We get triggered over the years and may not know where it stems from. We may cycle through various patterns and not know why. We may feel stuck and not sure how to shift patterns.

This is why our inner work is so important. As Carl Jung said, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”  At times we may feel victim of circumstance, but instead of asking why is this happening to me, I like to see ask why is this happening for me. What is the lesson?

Our journey of self discovery is a process of reflection and contemplation and what I like to call Inner Alchemy. This is comparable to Jung’s work of Individuation. It’s a holistic process where we take a look inside and see where we reconcile all that we hold within. Our experiences are here to serve us and when we start to cultivate more self awareness it’s easy to catch triggers and patterns that are in your power to shift. It all starts with intention and the will of your heart and soul.

“In each of us, there is a young, suffering child. We have all had times of difficulty as children and many of us have experienced trauma. To protect and defend ourselves against future suffering, we often try to forget those painful times. Every time we’re in touch with the experience of suffering, we believe we can’t bear it, and we stuff our feelings and memories deep down in our unconscious mind. It may be that we haven’t dared to face this child for many decades.” 

Emotions are energy in motion e-motion.

As humans we feel and experience the full spectrum, yet we were conditioned at an early age as to what was okay to express and what was not okay to express. This energy, these emotions are our teachers and our healers. If we are not free to express in healthy non-harming ways, we end up harming ourselves because the life force is trapped and not free flowing in our system.

As young ones, we may not have been able to process these experiences because we were not developed at that stage to do so. I feel this is why we have such an epidemic of fear, guilt, shame, grief, lies, illusion and attachment. These are called the seven demons of the chakras.


It’s a heavy load and I believe we have all felt this and witnessed this on our collective world stage. From a cellular/DNA perspective we carry this energy not just from our experiences in this life but from our ancestral lines. We can even take it a step further at a soul level as we recycle  experiences from other lifetimes as well. This is what some consider our karma to be cleared.

As hu-mans we hold a big responsibility if we choose to accept it and that it to take care of ourselves, to release the old imprints, create a clean slate, forgive the past and reconcile all within, so that we do not have to carry that forward; whether it be in our life or the life we create in our womb. Our Inner Alchemy is one of the most terrifying and rewarding experiences one can choose to under take. It’s is often not pretty, yet hold beautiful rewards and that is your ultimate freedom and liberation from the past, honoring the present that is your life here and now and creating the life you wish to live.

I remember my inner child.

She is 4 years old, happy, full of joy, wonder and wisdom. She also experienced much sadness that she did not understand and it’s taken me years to process and unravel. Several years ago I was sitting with a friend and out of the blue she said to me, “You don’t feel loved.” I felt a shock in my system and just started to tear up. I thought this was strange, but yet, there was some truth as to what she was sensing. Something happened along the way where I did not feel loved. I was unwanted – not seen, not heard, nor appreciated.

We all feel what we call love, but do we really know what it’s like to be loved, fully?

I think of Bob Marley’s song, “Could you be Loved”

Could you be loved and be loved?
Could you be loved and be loved?
Don’t let them fool ya
Or even try to school ya
Oh, no
We’ve got a mind of our own
So go to hell if what you’re thinking is not right
Love would never leave us alone
A-yin the darkness there must come out to light
Could you be loved and be loved?
Could you be loved, wo now! and be loved?
(The road of life is rocky and you may stumble too
So while you point your fingers someone else is judging you)
Love your brotherman
(Could you be, could you be, could you be loved?
Could you be, could you be loved?
Could you be, could you be, could you be loved?
Could you be, could you be loved?)
Powerful words, “So go to hell if what you’re thinking is not right”. We have deeply embedded thought patterns based on early experiences. These thought patterns become our “programs”. We can mindfully create an entrainment process  for our mind-body with new thoughts, words, a new story, a new script to upgrade our “program.” Everyone likes upgrades, right? It’s about becoming conscious of what you feed your mind, body and spirit.
This is also why we take a deep dive into our hearts and learn to love ourselves, warts and all as my grandmother would say. Once we journey through the darkness and see the shining light of our inner child guiding us to unconditional love, joy and freedom we have compassion for others that may be suffering. As a wise man once said to me, “my suffering is no different from anyone else’s.” As we release our recycled suffering we are free to walk in love and compassion for all beings, including ourselves.
Listen to your inner child. Listen to our children. Hold them in your loving care and safe arms. Be with them because they are with us forever. They are the wise ones.
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